Timing Self-Talk to Survive a Key Event
Taken from the free book How Haters Help
Now that you understand self-talk and how to use it to shape yourself, let's examine the timing of it's employment to survive a "key event". Reading or speaking your affirmations to get you through stressful "key events" will work wonders. Key events include events such as interviews, presentations, exams, blind dates, competitions, physical feats, or anything else that causes you to feel anxiety or uncertainty. From experience, I recommend the following strategy to successfully execute key events.
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Days / weeks prior
The long period of time preceding any event is the time when long-term programming
should occur. The focus should be be on programming yourself to be able to inherently
handle any general events you may become involved in during your day-today
activities. This is assuming you may not specifically be aware of the exact planned
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24 hours prior
The 24 hours prior to an event are an important time to affirm for the actual event
itself. Gear your affirmations specifically for the event, and repeat them as often as
possible during this time.
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1 hour prior
One hour prior to an event is when you should aggressively affirm yourself. Your affirmations
should be very targeted and repeated nearly continuously in this time. This
is also a time to visualize performing perfectly in your event.
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Start of event
The event itself is not a good time to use affirmations. Visualizing can help, however
using verbal affirmations during this time can have somewhat of a reverse effect. The
notion that verbally speaking them may suggest to your mind that you need to speak
them (which implies that you may not fully belief them), thus hindering your confidence
in the task. To solve this, you must literally “force” yourself to believe during
the climax of the task. For example, when I break boards, I affirm my skills up until
the actual strike. When I perform the actual strike I shut off all internal dialogue/affirmations.
I force my mind and body to know, with absolute focus and concentration
that they are performing perfectly.
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End of event
The hour after an event should be used to aggressively affirm yourself in how you
should have performed in the event (and reinforce yourself if you excelled). Congratulate
yourself on your performance. In the event that you failed in the event, the
aggressive affirmations will help with any necessary “damage control.”
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1 hour past
The 24 hours after the event should be used to reflect and continue to reaffirm yourself
of your desired performance. Use the time to calm down and calculate where you
will need to improve, while using affirmations to strengthen your beliefs about how
you will perform well in the future.
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24 hours past
The long period of time following the event should be used to remember the good
things about the event. You may find recalling the event as an ideal example of
performance could be useful in developing some of your affirmations for long-term
development. Have no regrets about your actions. Learn from them and move on.
Days / weeks prior
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Affirmations are highly practical for getting you through key events. In the long run
though, they can be used to create solid personality change and to achieve incredible
personal growth. Taking time to affirm yourself each day has the power to create real
change in your Life. When should you affirm yourself? I say all the time, but there are
two times each day which are crucial for maximizing the effectiveness of the affirmations
and creating change quickly in your Life.
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